Friday, November 11, 2005

Starting all over again

What happens when a relationship that means the world to you ends? Well I had a first hand account of this on my most recent trip.

It was supposed to be a gathering of sorts, a getting-to-know-you session. I got the drinks ready, the music was playing on my very nice PSP and Logitech Playgear Amp speakers. The 3 of them arrived and settled in. I was getting ready to raise my glass when she blurted out that she'd just ended an 8 yr relationship. The poor gal was fighting her tears back while recounting how the fateful day when her man bid her adieu, via SMS. Rest of us did our best to calm her down and change the subject. We have been by her side most times since then for the past week.

Now, yours truly have never been in a situation where I surrender all my emotions to that one person. It is precisely what's happening to the gal above that I keep my cards close to myself. Many of them meet in school, and usually the guy is the older one. So this little gal who hasn't known the real world has been leaning against him for most of her adult years. No wonder she's so devastated when he left her. In my opinion if the person you with is not making significant commitments after say, 6 months, it's time to say bye bye and move on. Sure it's tiring, sure it's gonna hurt, but hey what doesn't kill you will only make you stronger I think.

No one can claim to be an expert, and definitely every case is unique. Many times when presented with a sob story involving broken hearts, I just listen. Yes a bit of advise here and there, but nothing that will change that person's situation too much. It really is up to the individual how they are gonna handle it. Some turn to alcohol; others work their ass off so that end of day they are so tired all they can do is sleep; still there are those that depend so much on a network of support that it's not advisable to leave them alone for long periods of time. Different people, different strokes.

It really is not easy to be responsible for another person's emotional well-being. A path that I steer clear as much as possible. Sure, it is an escapist attitude, shunning people who care for you. I do these things as I can't reciprocate the same way. Perhaps one day I'll meet my match and have that person appear nonchalant to all my advances. Then you can turn around and tell me," Look who's talking now..."

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Being your girlfriend must be very tough ah....